"Can You Run Away from Sorrow?"

"We would all recognise that war and displacement is usually the harbinger of tragedy for mothers and many works describe their suffering. But this book does something that is much less common. It takes the situation of left behind mothers in Serbia to ask deeper questions about what it means to be a mother. Being a mother means you are supporting your children, not receiving their remittances, it consists of cooking proper meals, and reminding children of the taste of home. When there is a reversal in circumstances, and the house becomes more a museum than a home, this becomes a visceral blow to mothers who for a time feel they have ceased to exist as such. Through her poignant stories and careful analysis Bajić-Hajduković helps us understand that it was the mothers left at home, who became exiled from themselves and shows us what lies at the foundation of being a mother."—Daniel Miller, author of The Comfort of People

"We know a great deal about the lives and attitudes of migrants, but much less about those they leave behind at home. Focusing on Belgrade mothers whose lives were shaped by the emigration of their children during the war years of the 1990s, this book offers a remarkable ethnography of self-sacrifice, loss, loneliness, and grief,  as well as resourcefulness and survival. Readers will be touched as well as enlightened – and will be reminded to get in touch with their own mothers."—Wendy Bracewell, School of Slavonic and East European Studies, University College London

"Older women's voices are scarcely heard in grand histories of the break-up of Yugoslavia. Ivana Bajić-Hajduković's empathetic study of mothers whose children emigrated from Belgrade in the 1990s, a time of war, repression, and hyperinflation, puts the intimacies of home, food, and gifts at its centre to view migration through the heartfelt sacrifices of the women left behind so that their children could build new lives abroad."—Catherine Baker, author of The Yugoslav Wars of the 1990s